NATURING QUIET CONFIDENCE

Naturing Quiet Confidence

You know, I used to think confidence had to be loud. Like, to be truly confident, you had to be the most outspoken person in the room, super bold, grabbing attention wherever you went. But honestly? I don’t believe that anymore.

Some of the most magnetic and powerful people are often relatively quiet. Their confidence isn’t about putting on a show. It’s this calm, grounded energy that comes from knowing who they are and not needing constant reassurance. That’s the kind of confidence I’ve been learning to lean into lately.

We’re often taught that confidence is tied to how we look, what we’ve achieved, or how others perceive us. But what if it’s not about any of that? What if true confidence isn’t about proving anything, but about being okay with who you are, as you are?

That realisation was a game-changer for me.

I’ve found that confidence starts to grow when you accept all of yourself, including your strengths, flaws, and quirky aspects. I spent way too long chasing perfection, and wow, was that exhausting. However, the more I let go of trying to be "ideal" and embraced my true self, the more at ease I felt in my skin.

And here’s something I always try to remind myself: we deserve the same kindness we give our closest friends. You know how you’d never tear down a friend for having a bad day or making a mistake? We should offer ourselves that same grace. That kind of self-compassion? It’s where lasting confidence starts to take root.

Another significant shift for me was adopting a growth mindset. I used to be so afraid of failure, like it said something about who I was. However, I now try to view mistakes as part of the process. Confidence isn’t about never falling, it’s about knowing you’ll get back up and keep going every time.

And yeah, confidence shows up on the outside too, but not in the way I once thought. It’s less about the outfit (though feeling good in your clothes helps!) and more about the way you carry yourself. When you feel aligned with who you are, your voice, your style, and your values, it naturally shows. You don’t have to announce it. People can feel it.

Taking care of yourself plays a significant role in this as well. I used to think self-care was a luxury or something I had to earn. However, I now see it as essential. Whether it’s a slow morning with coffee, a workout that makes me feel strong, or saying no to things that drain me, those little choices are acts of self-respect. And when I take care of myself, I feel more confident. It’s just how it works.

One last thing, something I try to practice daily: if you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, don’t say it to yourself. Replace that inner critic with a voice that’s on your side. Cheer yourself on. Celebrate the little wins. Bit by bit, that becomes your new normal. And confidence follows.

So no, confidence doesn’t have to be loud to be real. Some of the strongest people I know move through life quietly, authentically, and with so much self-trust. That’s the kind of confidence I’m aiming for these days.

If you need the reminder, you don’t have to prove anything. You’re enough. Right here, right now. Just as you are.